Media and it’s Affect on Mental Health
Current Events Affect on Your Mental Health
It’s that moment in the day where you finally get to pause, breathe, and check your phone. You open your phone, just to check your social media accounts or maybe even the top headlines. Ten minutes later, you’re staring at a feed of disheartening stories… conflict zones, natural disasters, political strife, climate emergencies. You feel tightness in your chest, numbness creeping over your thoughts. You are now experiencing the weight of the world…literally.
The Unseen Weight of Continuous News Streams
Streaming news in real time gives us a front-row seat to global turbulence. Simultaneously, that access comes with a cost: our brains were never meant to handle never-ending, high-arousal input. Each alert, breaking headline, or urgent push notification triggers our stress response, a cascade of cortisol, adrenaline, heart-rate spikes. Over time, this becomes chronic, not episodic.
Are you familiar with the terms doom scrolling or media fatigue? This is a kind of emotional exhaustion caused by relentless information consumption. Studies show that even brief exposure to negative news can increase feelings of anxiety, sadness, and helplessness. Over the past years, research has linked frequent news exposure to higher symptoms of depression and anxiety.
One study published in Nature Human Behavior found a bidirectional loop: individuals who were already struggling with mental health symptoms were more likely to gravitate toward negative content and viewing that content, in turn, worsened their mood. Ultimately, this feedback loop can feel like you’re spiraling but powerless to stop it. (MIT news, 2024)
Why We Keep Watching Even When It Hurts
You might wonder: “Why is this so hard to break, even when I know it’s harming me?” The answer lies in how our minds are wired.
- Negativity Bias: We’re biologically programmed to pay more attention to bad news… it’s how we survive. Our brain highlights threats and risks, which means that negative stories dominate our emotional landscape.
- Uncertainty and Vigilance: In chaotic times, we cling to news as a way to feel in control, to anticipate what’s next. That urge to stay “informed” can draw us deeper into the stream.
- Reward Loops: Algorithms are built to keep us engaged. Sensational or alarming content increases engagement, so platforms feed us more of it.
Over time, your brain starts treating the news feed like a stress drug pulling you back even when you know it hurts.
When Streaming News Becomes a Wound That Must Be Healed
This constant exposure doesn’t just leave you weary it changes your mental health landscape:
- Heightened Baseline Stress: You begin to live in a low-grade state of tension. Your worries about the world bleeds into your personal life.
- Emotional Numbness: When the news is always grim, your ability to feel joy or hope can dull.
- Sleep Disruption: Late-night news checking interrupts rest, making it harder to recover emotionally.
- Increased Therapy Demand: Feeling a burning or increased desire of “I need to talk to someone about this.”
Intentional Strategies to Reclaim Your Well-Being
If you’re reading this, you’re already asking the right question: How do I protect myself without entirely shutting out relevant news? Here are practices that many clients and mental health professionals are finding useful:
- Designate News Windows
Instead of consuming nonstop, commit to one or two fixed “news check” periods daily. Give yourself permission to disengage outside those windows. - Choose Depth Over Speed
When you do get news, prefer measured articles or summaries rather than live alerts or clickbait video feeds. You’ll get context without the emotional jolt. Turn off push notifications. - “Worry Buffer Time”
After handling news, schedule ten minutes to name what’s worry-worthy, journal, process it, then move on. This helps your brain compartmentalize. - Anchor in the Tangible
Grounding practices: taking a walk, calling a friend, gardening, breathing exercises, etc. can help you step out of the loop of rumination and reclaim your body. - Media Fast or Minimalist Days
Allocate one day (or part of a day) each week to abstain from news entirely. Let that space refresh your inner resources. - Use Filters and Trusted Sources
Select a handful of reliable outlets. Turn off push alerts unless absolutely necessary. Let curated news be your gateway as opposed to relentless streams. - Bring It to Therapy
Acknowledge how certain topics affect your mood and make them part of the emotional narrative we explore together.
Why Therapy Matters
With streaming news weaving into our lived realities, emotional reactions to world events are no longer separate from personal struggles. A therapist can:
- Hold space for grief, fear, and overwhelm when friends may not have capacity.
- Help you build boundaries and regain agency over your attention.
- Work on cognitive tools to disrupt rumination when news hooks you.
- Support you in differentiating what’s within your control and what isn’t.
Therapy is like a map: it encompasses several different avenues to get you to a place of peace. The goal is for you to graciously care about the world without being consumed by it. You can stay informed, compassionate, engaged, and still protect your fragile mind.
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If the weight of the world is starting to feel heavy, it may be time to lean on support. Therapy isn’t just talking, it’s how many of us learn to live in a world that never stops turning. And sometimes the most powerful activism is caring for your own human self.
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The Importance of Acceptance
Acceptance. What is the first thing you think of when you hear this word? Now think about the idea of acceptance in reference to something painful from your past. Does it land differently? Does it feel like a futile exercise? If you are like many of my clients, the idea of acceptance can feel bittersweet or downright offensive. Many people assume that accepting something means they also have to approve of it. Unfortunately, this concept often gets conflated in our cultural reference. Ultimately leaving many people ill-equipped to deal with past losses, trauma, and struggles.
Through the course of this article, I hope to bring clarity to the psychological concept of acceptance and the relief it can bring. I will also outline some practical steps to help you in your journey of acceptance. This can help you to continue to experience healing in the areas of your life where a lack of acceptance is keeping you stuck.
Defining Acceptance
Acceptance is not…
To help clarify the act of acceptance, let’s start by defining what it is not. Acceptance is NOT giving up or acquiescing to abuse, trauma, or toxic relationships. It is not weakness nor is it helplessness or hopelessness. Acceptance is not an empty spiritual platitude designed to leave its participants feeling defeated or powerless.
On the contrary, acceptance is a choice, a process chosen by individuals who recognize they are unable to move past a thing because it is not what they wanted it to be. Let me be clear, acceptance is not ignoring painful things or pretending they did not happen. Instead, acceptance is key to psychological, emotional, spiritual, and even physical freedom. Alanon teaches that acceptance is freedom and allows us to problem solve. As long as we resist the unwanted things in our lives, we often exist in a state of denial. This denial creates avoidance, anger, defeat, resentment, and, in extreme cases, disassociation.
**Disclaimer: For those of you who are currently in an abusive or controlling relationship, a victim of domestic violence, fighting a significant health issue, etc., please do not confuse what I am saying here. I am not at all suggesting that we should accept bad things or not advocate for health and change. This article is meant to address those things primarily from our past and present that prevent us from identifying solutions, taking action steps, and healing our emotions in ways that allow us to more fully participate in our present and move toward our future.
Acceptance is…
In simple terms, accepting something is acknowledging that it happened (or is happening) despite your wishes to the contrary. It’s the divorce you didn’t want, the rebelliouskid you raised to be otherwise, the dying loved one, the overlooked promotion at work. When I work with clients who are finding it difficult to move past their narrative that their situation is unfair, unmerited, or unexpected, I often gently introduce the idea of acceptance and help them to explore what this would look like for them.
The principle here is that as long as we resist acceptance, we stay blind to solutions. We are unable to process our related emotions, place healthy boundaries, set expectations, and identify next steps. In other words, without acceptance we cannot move forward into the freedom we all crave. Sometimes the best thing to say to ourselves is this: “It is what it is, despite my desire for it to be otherwise.” This statement can be followed up with questions such as, “What can I do about it? How do I want to learn from this? How do I want to be different? Can I use this experience to potentially help others?”
When to Accept
Identifying when to accept a situation can be incredibly challenging at times. I know from personal experience and from countless sessions with clients over the years that acceptance does not come easily. Acceptance often involves grief because we are coming to terms with some sort of loss and it can be hard to accept this is as our new reality. Sometimes it is the culmination of a long fight. Sometimes it is the place we arrive when dealing with the hurtful decision of another.
The concept of post-traumatic growth is one that is helpful to understanding the role of acceptance. Post-traumatic growth is a decision to learn and grow through significantly stressful or challenging situations. It is a process by which the individual changes in profoundly meaningful ways, often resulting in a greater capacity for compassion, appreciation of life, increased personal strength or insight, deeper spiritual practice, and more intimate relationships. The key to this growth, however, is an individual’s response and subsequent struggle with the hardship in question. Trauma does not, in and of itself, produce post-traumatic growth.
Once I Reach a Place of Acceptance, Then What?
Once an individual comes to terms with a situation and begins accepting, there are several next steps that become possible. Having said that, it is important to note that like grief, acceptance is not necessarily a linear process and there is no precise timeline. Sometimes we are only capable of accepting a portion of something or at least a portion of it at a time.
With acceptance, an individual is then able to:
- Process their related emotions
- Participate in the present
- Identify and set healthy boundaries/expectations
- Recognize needs and wants
- Identify solutions and problem solve
- Take action toward a healthier future
Acceptance Is a Journey
If you are struggling with acceptance, please know you are not alone. Ask yourself if you are stuck emotionally and psychologically because you have been resistant to acceptance. Then ask yourself what acceptance may look like for you in this season of your life. Obtaining support from a clinical therapist or joining a support group specific to your struggle may be an excellent way for you to start.
Written by Sarah Groff, PhD, LCMHCS
Sarah Groff, PhD, LCMHCS has 23 years of experience working with children, adolescents, individuals, couples, and families throughout the life cycle. She is originally from the Pacific Northwest, where she earned a Bachelor’s Degree in Spanish and International Studies and then a Master’s Degree in Counseling, both from George Fox University. I also hold a Doctorate in Developmental Psychology from Liberty University. Sarah works with a wide variety of issues, including self-esteem and body image issues, grief and loss, marriage, divorce, blended families, parental alienation, infertility, and parenting. Additional areas of specialization are adoption and foster care, menopause, narcissistic abuse, and adjustment to issues specific to teens and young adults entering college or adult life.
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Therapy Aftercare: 5 Growth Steps
Doing “The Work”
5 Steps to Maintain Your Growth Outside of Therapy
Therapy is powerful… but it’s not the whole picture. The real magic? This happens in between sessions, in your everyday life. Whetheryou’re fresh out of therapy, taking a break, or simply navigating your own healing path, “doing the work” is about showing up for yourselfwhen no one’s watching. It’s about choosing to participate in your own growth. And while there’s no perfect formula, here are five key steps to help you stay grounded, empowered, and in forward motion outside of the therapy room.
1. Build a Self-Tending Practice (Not Just Self-Care)
Let’s go deeper than bubble baths. Self-tending means listening to what you need and responding with intention. Start with your inner world:
- Journal to process your emotions or track patterns in your thoughts.
- Read or listen to content that feeds your spirit – books, podcasts, or videos that mirror your journey or expand your view.
- Engage your body with movement that feels good, whether that’s yoga, working out, dancing in your kitchen, or just walking and breathing deeply.
Self-tending includes rest and hydration just as much as it includes turning off your phone and being still with yourself.
It’s how you remind yourself, “I matter.”
2. Stay Curious About Your Triggers
Do you ever find yourself triggered by something, but don’t understand why? Triggers aren’t just emotional landmines…they’re clues. When something (or someone) sets you off, instead of reacting automatically, pause. Ask yourself:
“What is this really about?”
“What part of me feels unsafe, unseen, or unloved?”
Use those moments as invitations to explore, become curious instead of reactive. Do a bit of research. Maybe it’s a trauma response, a nervous system flare-up, or a core belief being challenged. The more you understand your reactions, the more power you gain to shift them.
This is emotional intelligence in action. Curiosity turns discomfort into discovery.
3. Rebalance Your Life Roles
If I asked you, “Who are you?” could you answer without leaning on the roles you play in others’ lives, the career that defines your days, or the labels the world has placed on you?
Seems hard, doesn’t it? That’s the internal conditioning that your worth is external.
You’re not just a title. You’re not only a parent, a partner, a student, or an employee. There’s a “you” underneath all the roles you play and all the hats you wear. Believe it or not, that’s the “you” that matters most.
Doing the work means checking in with yourself regularly. Ask: What do I like, outside of what’s expected of me? When do I feel most alive? What dreams have I put on hold, and why? It’s about engaging in hobbies, revisiting old passions, or even trying something completely new. The goal isn’t to impress anyone or meet a standard, it’s to make space for your identity to unfold, not just in relation to others, but in genuine connection to yourself.
4. Cultivate Healthy Connections
Healing doesn’t happen in isolation. While there are moments where solitude is necessary in your growth. Building healthy connections bridges the gap between self-discovery and shared humanity, reminding you that you don’t have to do life alone.
Surround yourself with people who nourish, not drain, your energy. That might look like:
- Seeking out community spaces or support groups.
- Building deeper friendships rooted in honesty and mutual care.
- Limiting time with people who consistently leave you feeling small, unseen, or dysregulated.
Let’s face it, connecting with others isn’t always a walk in the park. Disagreements and misunderstandings happen. It’s life, we’re all a work in progress. What matters is how we handle it: taking space when needed, offering grace, owning our part, and staying open to growth. The goal isn’t perfection, it’s accountability, growth and connecting with others who are committed to the same.
Whether it’s one trusted person or a small circle, lean into relationships where you can be your whole self.
5. Make Meaning Through Mind-Body-Spirit Integration
True progress is holistic. It is likely you have discussed this in your previous therapy. It touches every part of you. So, ask: How am I aligning my inner work with my daily life?
- Spiritually, are you staying connected to something greater? That could be prayer, nature, meditation, or ancestral practices.
- Physically, are you tuning in? Is your body asking for rest, movement, nourishment?
- Mentally, are you challenging your old beliefs, replacing shame with compassion, and giving yourself permission to change?
This isn’t about perfection. It’s about presence. Reflect regularly. Ask what’s working and what needs adjusting. Small shifts lead to sustainable growth.
Keep Doing Your Best, And Don’t Give Up on You!
Therapy is a great step to release, reflect, and reframe. It even adds the skills to your tool box for you to manage things when you’re on your own. However, not doing the work outside of therapy is like spending hours touring gyms, watching workout videos, and buying fitness gear… then wondering why your muscles haven’t grown yet. Knowledge is important, but embodiment is where the change happens. You must do the work.
Some days, doing the work looks like deep self-reflection. Other days, it’s drinking water and stretching. It’s also not spiraling emotionally after a hard conversation. Either way, it counts. Doing “the work” isn’t a one-time fix. It’s a lifestyle… a practice of coming home to yourself, again and again.
You don’t have to have it all figured out to be growing outside of therapy. You just need to stay in motion, even if it’s slow.
The most empowering part is that every step counts.
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Trauma’s Impact on You
Understanding the Trauma Response
When you hear the word trauma, what comes to mind?
Perhaps you picture a soldier returning home from war, haunted by memories too heavy to carry. That image is valid but it’s also incomplete. Because here’s the truth: trauma doesn’t just wear combat boots. Trauma can wear yoga pants. It can sit at a desk job. It can raise children, scroll social media, or smile through the pain at family gatherings.
Maybe you’ve even minimized your own pain because you didn’t have bruises to show for it. Reviewing your own trauma through a lens tailored to what you thought was classified as “actual trauma”, telling yourself “I haven’t been through anything that bad. Other people have had it worse.” But hear me clearly: if something overwhelmed your ability to cope, that was trauma.
So… What Is Trauma, Really?
Trauma isn’t about what happened. It’s about how your nervous system responded to what happened. This means that your brain has taken information about an experience, and hard wired a response when it perceives any other similar events. Trauma is any experience that felt threatening, unsafe, or emotionally overwhelming, especially if it left you feeling powerless, unsupported, or alone. This could be a one-time event (like an accident), or ongoing situations (like emotional neglect, toxic relationships, or growing up in a chaotic home). It doesn’t have to be loud to be a trauma. Sometimes the quietest, most invisible wounds run the deepest.
Common Symptoms of Trauma
There’s the trauma responses you expect, and then the ones that sneak up on you, the kind that make you feel like, “Why am I like this?” Let’s start with the ones that are often linked with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) or acute trauma, including:
- Flashbacks – feeling like you’re reliving the trauma, even if it happened years ago.
- Nightmares/Night terrors – sleep disturbances of fear, memory or anguish
- Intrusive thoughts that pop into your mind and won’t go away.
- Hypervigilance – constantly scanning for danger, unable to relax.
- Panic attacks – sudden surge of anxiety causing mental and physical symptoms.
- Dissociation – zoning out or feeling disconnected from your body or surroundings.
These are intense and often misunderstood symptoms.
These symptoms are your brain’s way of trying to protect you from a perceived threat,
even if that threat is no longer real.
Ways Trauma Shows Up That You Might Not Realize
What is interesting about trauma, is that you may have been working on it in therapy without even knowing it. You don’t need flashbacks or nightmares to be considered traumatized. Trauma can show up in more subtle, everyday ways. It might look like constant self-doubt or struggling with feelings of impostor syndrome. Or maybe you are questioning your worth despite evidence to the contrary.
In relationships, you may have difficulty setting boundaries or saying “no.” This then puts others’ needs ahead of your own. When counseling goals have been around feeling like you’re never enough, this could be trauma too. Other aspects of your emotional health that potentially could be trauma related is persistent fears of abandonment or rejection in relationships. Trauma can create a hyper-independent personality, who believes they can’t rely on others – because doing so has only led to disappointment. Others may feel emotionally numb, as if they’re merely observing life rather than fully participating in it. As you can see, trauma can impact you in very subtle ways.
Forms of Trauma
Did you know that trauma comes in many shapes? It’s important to recognize there’s no “trauma Olympics.” No scale of “yours counts, but mine doesn’t.” Trauma can come in many forms—whether it stems from loss, abuse, neglect, betrayal, sudden change, or even experiences that might look “small” from the outside but feel overwhelming on the inside.
- Acute Trauma – One-time events like a car accident, assault, or natural disaster.
- Chronic Trauma – Repeated exposure to distress, like ongoing abuse, neglect, or bullying.
- Complex Trauma – A mix of many traumatic experiences, often starting in childhood, that affect your sense of self and relationships.
- Developmental Trauma – Occurs during early life, when your brain and sense of safety are still forming.
- Secondary or Vicarious Trauma – When you’re deeply affected by witnessing or hearing about someone else’s trauma (common in caregivers, therapists, first responders).
- PTSD and C-PTSD – Diagnosed conditions with specific symptom clusters, including flashbacks, nightmares, and emotional dysregulation.
No trauma is “too small” to matter. Pain isn’t a competition.
Trauma Shapes our Reactions to the Present
Trauma can also impact how we react to some people and situations. Have you ever found yourself shutting down in conversations? Perhaps, you ‘re overreacting to “small” things? That’s not you being “too sensitive” or “crazy.” That’s your nervous system trying to protect you.These responses are not conscious choices but automatic protective mechanisms.
Common trauma responses include:
Fight: Anger, control, confrontation. You might snap quickly or try to stay in charge to avoid feeling vulnerable.
Flight: Perfectionism, overworking, anxiety. You stay “busy” to outrun the discomfort.
Freeze: Numbness, procrastination, zoning out.
Fawn: People-pleasing, codependency, self-abandoning, shape-shifting to be “safe” or loved.
It’s important to remember these responses are adaptive—they once served a protective purpose. It’s just that this reaction is no longer useful. Now that you see these for what they are, you are one more step towards healing.
Trauma Therapy Helps you Move Forward
With therapy and support, individuals can learn to regulate their nervous system, build healthier coping strategies, and experience a greater sense of safety. Healing isn’t about forgetting or pretending it didn’t matter. It’s about making the choice now, to finally give your body and brain the safety they needed back then. Healing from trauma is not linear, it’s a process. The most important thing to remember is.. you are not weak for being affected by what happened to you. You are not dramatic for acknowledging your pain and giving it a name. And above all, you are not alone in how you feel.
Start small. Learn to notice your triggers without judgment. Practice self-compassion, even if it feels foreign. Reach out for support, whether it’s trauma therapy, community, or trauma-informed resources. EMDR therapy, Brainspotting, or TFCBT are just a few options available to you.
And most importantly: stop comparing your pain to someone else’s. Your story matters. The body remembers. Your healing is valid…
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5 Steps to Recover from Burnout: Reclaiming Your Peace
5 Steps to Recover from Burnout: Reclaiming Your Peace
Burnout isn’t just a buzzword. It’s a real, draining experience that many of us face. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, emotionally drained, or like your spark has been blown out, you’re not alone. The good news? You can take steps to manage and even recover from burnout. Here’s a practical guide to help you regain balance, energy, and a sense of purpose.
1. Set Clear Boundaries Between Work and Life
We’ve all heard the term, “work-life balance”, but perhaps it’s felt like just that… a term. One of the most effective ways to prevent burnout is by establishing firm boundaries between your professional and personal life. This means setting specific work hours and resisting the urge to check emails or respond to work-related messages during your personal time.
Creating a dedicated workspace, especially if you work from home, can also help in maintaining this separation. By setting clear boundaries, you allow yourself the time and space needed to recharge, preventing burnout from creeping into your personal life.
Work life balance essentially bridges the gap between burn out and a healthy life balance. It’s being present, listening to your body when it says, “enough is enough”. It’s taking that vacation or mental break every so often.
2. Prioritize Self-Care and Physical Health
Taking care of your body is crucial in managing burnout. Regular physical activity, such as walking, yoga, or any form of exercise you enjoy, can significantly reduce stress
and improve mood. Aim for at least 150 minutes of moderate-intensity aerobic activity per week, as recommended by health experts.
Additionally, ensure you’re getting enough sleep, eating a balanced diet, and stay hydrated. These simple self-care practices can make a major difference in reducing stress and managing burnout effectively.
3. Build a Support Network
You don’t have to face burnout alone. For starters, being present and acknowledging when you’re physically, emotionally, or mentally drained is the first step to taking a step back. In the midst of exhaustion, sometimes our judgment becomes so clouded that we either continue trying to “power through” or suffer in silence.
Reaching out to friends, family, or colleagues to share and gain support can relieve the overwhelming feelings of stress and isolation that burnout may cause. Sharing your concerns, challenges, and frustrations can provide emotional relief and perspective. Whether it’s through casual conversations or seeking professional guidance, connecting with others can help you feel less isolated and more supported.
4. Practice Relaxation Techniques
Do you ever feel like everything is pent up resulting in discomfort and restlessness?
Incorporating relaxation practices into your daily routine can help reduce stress levels and combat burnout. Techniques such as deep breathing exercises, progressive muscle relaxation, guided imagery, and meditation can be effective in managing stress.
You can attend group activities where a practitioner can guide you through these techniques, use them alone at home, or follow along with an app or online video. Regular practice of these techniques can help you stay present and reduce stress, improving your overall well-being.
5. Seek Professional Help if Needed
Perhaps sometimes it feels like there’s so much to juggle that you don’t even know where to begin for relief.
If you’re struggling with burnout and finding it hard to cope, consider talking to a professional such as your general practitioner or a counselor. Mental health professionals serve as compasses that can help you navigate what feels like a personal storm in your life. Helping you to understand the effects of chronic stress on your thoughts and behaviors and work with you to develop strategies for recovery.
Navigating stressful situations isn’t easy, but there’s such a peace we feel when we know that our therapist is dedicated to helping us address long-held patterns of thought and behavior that may contribute to burnout.
A Healthier Tomorrow, Starts Today
Burnout is a serious issue that impacts mental and physical health. A healthier tomorrow means waking up with energy, feeling more in control of your day, and having the time and clarity to enjoy what matters most. By using the strategies outlined above, you can prevent and manage burnout and lead a happier, more balanced life. If a part of your healthier tomorrow is seeking therapy support, visit our clinicians page to find a therapist you would like to work with.
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Could It Be More Than Burn Out? Burn Out vs. Depression
Could it be more? Burn Out vs. Depression
Do you find yourself feeling numb, tired, or unmotivated? It could be more than burnout.
Burnout is a term we’ve all heard, especially in the age of constant connectivity and relentless productivity. But what if that overwhelming sense of exhaustion, detachment, and emotional depletion is more than just burnout? What if it’s depression?
While burnout is often linked to work-related stress, depression is a complex mental health condition that can affect every aspect of life. Understanding the difference is crucial, especially since depression is a leading cause of disability worldwide.
What actually is Burnout?
While burnout shares some symptoms with depression, such as fatigue and emotional exhaustion, there are distinct differences:
Emotional Exhaustion
-In burnout, individuals feel drained and unable to meet constant demands.
-In depression, this exhaustion is pervasive and not limited to work-related stress.
Reduced Performance
-Burnout leads to reduced performance and feelings of incompetence.
-Depression can cause a lack of interest in activities once enjoyed, including work, but also affects personal relationships and daily functioning.
Cynicism and Detachment
-Burnout often involves a sense of detachment from responsibilities.
-Depression can lead to feelings of hopelessness and worthlessness, extending beyond work to all areas of life.
Physical Symptoms
-Burnout sometimes comes with headaches and gastrointestinal issues. Some even report increases in illnesses to to a fatigued immune system.
-Depression can manifest with physical symptoms like changes in appetite, sleep disturbances, and fatigue, which are less common in burnout.
Understanding these differences is vital for seeking the correct support and future decisions. This is especially important if we are looking at changes in our lives including employment or other roles that are hled in community organizations.
What does depression feel like?
Depression feels like waking up every day with a mind that wants to disappear and a body that’s forced to show up. Do you ever find yourself feeling like there’s so much youneed to do, but your mind is working against you, and soon your body follows? Now instead of getting things done you end up lying down in sorrow. It feels like it’s you against the world and no one understands so you might as well just lay there, right?
Perhaps you find yourself asking questions like “Why do I feel like this?”, “What’s wrong with me?”, or “Why can’t I shake this feeling?” I’d like to reassure you that depression isn’t something you consciously chose to put yourself through. It’s also not an indication of failure, it’s a real medical condition.
How do I know if I have depression?
According to the DSM-5-TR, a major depressive episode is characterized by a persistently low mood or loss of interest in most activities, lasting at least two weeks. This must be accompanied by at least five of the following symptoms:
- Persistent low or irritable mood
- Loss of interest or enjoyment
- Significant weight change or appetite disturbance
- Sleep disturbances (insomnia or hypersomnia)
- Physical restlessness or slowed movements/speech almost every day (Noticeable by others)
- Fatigue or loss of energy
- Feelings of worthlessness or excessive guilt
- Diminished ability to think or concentrate, or indecisiveness.
- Recurrent thoughts of death or suicide
Where does Depression come from?
Depression typically results from a combination of biological, psychological, and environmental factors. On a biological level, imbalances in brain chemicals like serotonin and dopamine, hormonal shifts (such as postpartum or thyroid-related changes), and genetics can all contribute. Psychologically, negative thought patterns, low self-esteem, perfectionism, or past trauma increases vulnerability. Environmental factors like chronic stress, grief, financial strain, or social isolation can also play a major role.
Additionally, certain medical conditions, substance use, and even side effects from some medications can trigger or worsen depressive symptoms. Often, it’s a mix of these influences that lead someone to develop depression. Understanding its complexity is key to seeking the right support and recognizing that depression is a legitimate and treatable condition.
This sounds like me, Now What?
Depression is more than just feeling “burnt out.” It’s a multifaceted condition that requires understanding, compassion, and appropriate treatment. If you’re struggling, know that help is available, and recovery is possible. You’re not alone in this journey.
Depression is a treatable condition. Effective treatment often involves a combination of:
- Psychotherapy: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and other therapeutic approaches can help individuals identify and reframe negative thought patterns.
- Medication: Antidepressants, such as selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs), can help balance chemicals in the brain that affect mood.
- Lifestyle Changes: Regular exercise, a balanced diet, adequate sleep, and stress management techniques can support overall mental health.
- Support Systems: Building a network of supportive friends, family, or support groups can provide encouragement and reduce feelings of isolation.
Reaching out to a mental health professional is a powerful first step towards receiving support and treatment that’s right for you!
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Beyond Childhood: ADHD in Adults
Beyond Childhood: ADHD in Adults
Whether you’re an adult diagnosed with ADHD or you think you might have ADHD, you’ve probably heard all sorts of things. Phrases like, “You should be able to focus by now,” or “Why don’t you just get organized?” But here’s the truth—ADHD doesn’t magically disappear as you age. It just evolves, often in ways that are harder to spot. So, let’s break it down, because understanding what ADHD really looks like in adults is key to finally getting the help and understanding you deserve.
What ADHD in Adults Looks Like
First things first: ADHD in adults is not just about being hyperactive or “unable to sit still” like the picture we usually paint of ADHD in kids. Sure, sometimes you still struggle with that, but adult ADHD shows up in ways that are way more subtle and tricky. It’s not always about running around or climbing on the furniture; sometimes, it’s about that constant sense of being overwhelmed, forgetful, impulsive, or disorganized, even in a high-stakes adult world.
Adults with ADHD have difficulty accepting delayed gratification which is what leads to impulsive decision making. Do you have a tendency to seek immediate rewards and struggle with waiting for long-term benefits.This could involve impulsive purchases, career changes, or relationship decisions. Impulsivity in adults can affect areas like spending habits, eating, or seeking out pleasure or excitement.
Your not just busy….
Many adults with ADHD experience difficulty focusing on tasks, especially the ones that aren’t immediately engaging or interesting. Let’s say you start a task, but then get distracted by something else; an email, a phone notification, a random thought—and then suddenly, that work project or important email you meant to send is nowhere to be found. Sound familiar? You’re not alone. Research shows that inattention and impulsivity are core components of ADHD, and they manifest in ways that can feel frustrating as an adult (National Institute of Mental Health, 2022).
Still for many, the battle is about time management. Do you find yourself feeling like deadlines tend to sneak up on you? Or like it’s hard to follow a routine? ADHD can make it seem like your internal clock is always a few steps behind everyone else’s. You even find yourself procrastinating on things that you know need to get done, but it feels like there’s this mental block that makes focusing feel impossible. And then when you do sit down to do something, it’s like trying to juggle 15 thoughts at once; Your mind is constantly in overdrive.
Feeling overwhelmed but other’s have it together?
Then there’s the emotional rollercoaster. Adults with ADHD often experience higher levels of stress, anxiety, and frustration. The self-doubt, the feelings of inadequacy, constantly feeling like you’re not measuring up to your potential. Those with adults with ADHD will think “Why can’t I just get it together?” The answer isn’t simple. ADHD affects how your brain regulates emotions, making it harder to control stress, frustration, and even excitement (Barkley, 2015).
How ADHD in Adults Differs from ADHD in Children
If you’ve ever watched a child with ADHD in action, you’ve probably noticed the typical signs: hyperactivity, constant movement, and difficulty paying attention. But as a child grows into adulthood, ADHD looks a lot different. The external hyperactivity has reduced, but the internal restlessness is still there. In fact, one major difference between childhood and adult ADHD is that hyperactivity tends to turn into mental restlessness. This leaves you feeling like your mind is always racing and never settling down, even if you’re not moving physically (American Psychiatric Association, 2021).
Children with ADHD often have obvious behaviors that teachers, parents, and doctors can easily spot. As an adult, however, the symptoms can be more hidden. ADHD presents itself as a lack of organization, a failure to meet deadlines, or chronic forgetfulness. These presentations can easily be brushed off as laziness or poor time management, especially by people who don’t understand the full scope of ADHD. Adults with ADHD can also have trouble in relationships because of their impulsivity or tendency to overlook details, like missing important dates or forgetting what their partner said just hours ago. The emotional toll of feeling misunderstood can be overwhelming (Kooij et al., 2010).
The Hidden Struggles: Why ADHD in Adulthood is Harder to Spot
Adult ADHD is often underdiagnosed. As we get older, there’s this pressure to “have it together” in ways that just aren’t realistic for people with ADHD. It’s easy to write off symptoms as something else, like stress, anxiety, or just “being disorganized” (National Institute of Mental Health, 2022). You’ve gone through your life thinking, “I’m just a bit messy” or “I’m just forgetful,” but let’s face it, those small things add up, affecting your career, your relationships, and your mental health.
It’s also worth mentioning that co-existing conditions are common. ADHD often coexists with other conditions, like anxiety or depression, which can make things even harder to identify. Which leads you to feel like there’s something more going on, but can’t quite put your finger on it.
So, What Can You Do?
If you’re reading this and thinking, “This sounds exactly like me,” you’re not alone. Many people deal with ADHD every day and don’t realize what it actually is. You don’t have to suffer in silence. ADHD in adults is real, and it can be managed with the right tools. Therapy, medication or natural supplements, lifestyle changes, and creating structure in your day-to-day life can all make a massive difference.
If you think you might have ADHD, it’s worth talking to a healthcare provider who specializes in ADHD diagnosis and treatment. Getting a proper diagnosis can open the door to the support and resources that can make your day-to-day life a lot more manageable. Therapists at Miracles Counseling Centers can help you to begin assessing the possibility that ADHD is actually what is impacting your day to day functiioning.
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How to Heal from Trauma
How to Heal from Trauma
Events in our lives can be beautiful, but often times there are events that change the course of how we experience ourselves, our relationships, and our own inner potential. There are times in our lives where we will need to focus on healing after a traumatic event. Taking steps to begin the healing is incredibly important.
What is a traumatic event?
Traumatic events are uniquely defined by how an individual experiences an event. If that event creates physical, emotional, spiritual harm, or psychological harm it can qualify as a trauma. Many individuals are able to recover and move forward after those events, but some do need counseling support to address resulting anxious, depressive, or other life complications. Why does trauma impact each individual so uniquely? This is due to the varying life experiences we have all lead. Those who have had previously traumas, existing depressive or anxiety disorders, or those who were brought up in an unhealthy environmetn will be more likely to struggle significantly.
What situations could potentally create longer term traumatic consequences? Some of those include:
- loss of a loved one
- car accidents
- serious illness
- victim or witness to a crime
- natural disasters
The emotional and physical health impacts from trauma vary from person to person. As a result, many people struggle with repeatedly thinking about the incident. In other cases, some may experience anxiety and panic if they have to return to the place of the event. More signficant traumatic reactions such as disassociation can occur if you have experienced multiple traumas in your life, especially if they go untreated. Post Traumatic Stress Disorder often goes untreated because some individuals avoid acknowleding their symptoms. It is important to find a trauma informed therapist to address your emotional health after these events to prevent long term issues from developing.
There are research proven treatment approaches counselors use to treat trauma.
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocess (EMDR)
Cognitive Processing Therapy (CPT)
Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (TFCBT)
These approaches are all clinical approaches based in neuroscience to help the body integrate understanding of the event, but more importantly, help to neutralize the negative emotions that persist. Most importantly, these treatments work for children as well! Following a traumatic event, immediate processing is incredibly important and allows quicker closure. For you this is a chance to return to a life focused on the future! Therapists who use any of these techniques will help you to move forward after a trauma occurs in your life. Depending upon your situation, treatment can be brief and focused. If you have complicated and multiple traumatic events then longer time in care may be needed.
Therapy DOES Help
Take the time do heal from trauma. It can improve the direction your life takes and can be a wonderful experience. Choosing a therapist who can provide trauma counseling is easy at Miracles Counseling Centers. Visit our therapist’s page or fill out our new client form and one of our intake coordinators can assist you in finding a match that will best support you. We are here for you in all parts of life, and take pride in helping you move though difficult moments such as these.
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Personal Growth in Springtime
Embracing Spring: The Ultimate Self-Care Guide
As the days grow longer and the air turns warmer, spring offers a perfect opportunity to reset, refresh, and reinvigorate your mind, body, and spirit. The season of renewal not only invites nature to bloom but also encourages you to invest in your own well-being. Here’s a comprehensive self-care guide to help you welcome the beauty of spring with open arms.
1. Spring Clean Your Space and Mind
Spring cleaning isn’t just about tidying up your home—it’s a chance to clear away the mental clutter, too. A clutter-free, organized environment has been shown to reduce stress and promote a sense of calm. Start by decluttering your living space, donating items you no longer need, and cleaning areas that may have been overlooked during the winter months.Additionally, take time to declutter your mind. Journaling can be a great tool for letting go of any mental fog. Write about your thoughts, emotions, and intentions for the new season. Clearing your mind helps create space for growth and positivity.
2. Nourish Your Body with Seasonal Foods
As the weather warms up, your body may crave lighter, fresher meals. Spring is a time when local farmers’ markets overflow with vibrant fruits and vegetables, so take advantage of this bounty. Incorporate more greens, berries, asparagus, peas, and citrus fruits into your diet for a natural boost of energy and nutrients. Hydration is also key during spring as the temperatures rise. Drinking plenty of water, herbal teas, or infused water with lemon and mint can help keep you hydrated and refreshed.
3. Move Your Body Outdoors
Spring is the perfect time to take your workout outdoors. After months of being cooped up indoors, embrace the warmth of the sun and the beauty of nature. Whether it’s hiking, biking, or simply taking a walk in the park, getting outside can elevate your mood and boost your physical health. Engage in activities like yoga or pilates in a nearby
green space. The combination of mindful movement and fresh air is a perfect way to honor both your body and mind.
4. Create a Morning Routine to Ground Yourself
A mindful morning routine sets the tone for the entire day. Start your day with intention by incorporating calming practices, such as stretching, deep breathing, or meditation. Drinking a warm cup of tea or lemon water while journaling can help clear your mind and give you a sense of purpose. This ritual doesn’t have to be long—just 10-15 minutes of focus can help you feel centered and ready to tackle the day ahead. Spring is a time of renewal, and using the morning to reset is an ideal way to start your day with a fresh perspective.
5. Reconnect with Nature
There’s no better time than spring to reconnect with nature. As the flowers bloom and the trees regain their leaves, spending time outdoors can be incredibly grounding. Whether you’re tending to a garden, walking through a park, or simply enjoying a peaceful moment under the trees, nature provides both physical and emotional healing. The act of nurturing plants in your garden can also serve as a metaphor for nurturing yourself—allowing you to grow and flourish as the season unfolds.
6. Practice Gratitude and Set Intentions
Spring symbolizes new beginnings, making it a great time to reflect on your life and set meaningful intentions. Take a moment each day to practice gratitude—whether it’s for the simple beauty of nature or the loving relationships in your life. Consider setting intentions for the coming months. Think about what you want to manifest and create in your life during this season of growth. Whether it’s focusing on personal development, cultivating new hobbies, or improving your physical health, establishing goals for spring will give you a sense of direction and purpose.
7. Cultivate Meaningful Connections
The spring season brings a sense of renewal, not just for the earth but for our relationships, too. Use this time to reconnect with friends and family. Spend quality time outdoors with loved ones, have a picnic in the park, or plan a small gathering to celebrate the season. Social connections are essential for emotional well-being, and spring’s energizing atmosphere is the perfect backdrop for deepening relationships.
A Season of Renewal
Spring is a time for growth, rejuvenation, and renewal. As the world outside comes back to life, take the opportunity to nurture yourself—mind, body, and spirit. Whether through self-reflection, outdoor activities, or nourishing your body, embracing the season’s changes can help you feel more balanced, energized, and ready to bloom. By making self-care a priority during the spring months, you’ll set yourself up for a season of vitality, joy, and personal growth.
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Depression in Men IS Different
Breaking the Silence: Understanding Depression in Men
Are you feeling like something’s just not right, but you can’t quite put your finger on it? You have been feeling more frustrated, isolated, and more tired than usual, but you don’t know why. Or perhaps you’ve been pushing yourself to “just get through it,” but it seems harder every day. If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone—and what you might be experiencing could be depression. Before you brush it off… yes, men can get depressed too, even if it doesn’t look like what you might think. The truth is, depression affects millions of men. Unfortunately, the way it shows up often looks different than what one may expect.
What Does Depression in Men look like?
Depression is more than just feeling “down” or “sad.” It’s a serious mental health condition that affects millions of men globally. In fact, research shows that one in eight men will experience depression in their lifetime (American Psychological Association, 2020). Yet, the way depression manifests in men is often different from how it’s typically recognized in others. While sadness and hopelessness are common symptoms, many men find themselves feeling irritable, frustrated, or even physically drained.
It’s important to recognize that depression in men can look and feel different. Men often don’t express their struggles with tears or obvious sadness. Instead, they might feel exhausted, angry, or withdrawn. This doesn’t make their experience any less real—it just means that they may be suffering in ways that don’t immediately scream “depression.” Unfortunately, societal norms around masculinity can make it even harder for men to recognize their depression or seek the help they need.
Why Men’s Depression is Often Overlooked
- Cultural Expectations: Whether intentionally or unintentionally society has normalized the concept of suppressed emotions in men.
From a young age, many men are taught to suppress their emotions. Phrases like “man up,” “don’t cry,” or “brush it off” are often thrown around, sending the message that expressing vulnerability is a weakness. These cultural expectations can lead to men bottling up their emotions, pushing them aside in favor of appearing tough or in control. As a result, it becomes harder for them to even recognize what they’re going through—let alone ask for help. - Stigma: Although mental/emotional awareness has grown tremendously, mental health issues, especially in men, are still stigmatized. Admitting to depression can feel like a sign of weakness. Asking for help, whether it’s through therapy or just talking to someone, can feel like admitting failure. Unfortunately, this stigma prevents many men from acknowledging their depression or reaching out for support. Some may believe that opening up about their mental health will make them seem less capable or less of a man.
- Misdiagnosis:There is a common misinterpretation of depression symptoms in men. Due to depression symptoms in men not always showing up the “traditional way”, oftentimes, their depression goes undiagnosed. In fact, men are less likely to recognize their own depression, and healthcare professionals may not always connect their symptoms to a mental health issue. This leads to missed opportunities for treatment and healing (National Institute of Mental Health, 2023).
What Causes Depression?
Unfortunately, there is no one size fits all answer for why depression happens, but essentially depression is a chemical imbalance in the brain. I’m sure you’re wondering “what does that even mean?”, lol, here’s some additional clarity:
- Biological Factors: Changes in brain chemistry, genetic predisposition, hormonal shifts (e.g., during puberty, pregnancy, or menopause), and chronic illnesses can all contribute to depression.
- Psychological Factors: People with negative thinking patterns, low self-esteem, or past trauma may be more prone to depression. Cognitive patterns, like rumination,can deepen feelings of hopelessness.
- Environmental Stress: Major life events such as job loss, divorce, or grief, along with social isolation or ongoing stress, can trigger or worsen depression.
- Substance Use: Alcohol and drug use can temporarily numb feelings but often make depression worse over time by altering brain chemistry.
- Sleep and Nutrition: Lack of sleep or nutritional deficiencies can contribute to depression, and the two can create a cycle that’s hard to break.
Perhaps reading that felt very general and not exactly specific to men. The causes for depression are predominantly the same across genders. However, one notable difference is the tendency for men to consistently suppress their emotions. Constantly suppressing emotions is like putting a band aid on a gunshot wound, the pain still lies underneath and continues to get worse when left untreated.
How You Can Support Men with Depression
- Encourage open conversation: Create an environment where men can talk about their emotions without fear of judgment. Encourage the idea that speaking about emotions are actually strengths, and is not a weakness.
- Ask questions: For example asking something like “How can I best support you in this season?”, offers a compassionate way to invite men to share what they need. Studies suggest that asking open-ended questions encourages self-reflection and facilitates the healing process (Seidler et al., 2016).
- Seek professional help: Encourage them to seek help. Therapy is a space that can bridge the gap between suffering in silence and having your own personal outlet. His counselor will serve as a guide who listens with empathy and works with you to create a personalized plan for healing. Professional intervention has been shown to improve mental health outcomes and can significantly reduce the impact of depression (Cuijpers et al., 2010).
- Promote healthy coping strategies: Encourage your loved one to cope in a healthy way. Physical activity has been found to reduce symptoms of depression by releasing endorphins and improving mood (Schuch et al., 2016). In addition to physical activity, healthy eating, engaging in hobbies, spending time with loved one and a balanced sleep schedule are important to improve overall mental health.
Are You or Someone You Know Experiencing Symptoms?
We’ve all heard the phrase ‘man up,’ but let’s be real.. sometimes ‘man-ing up’ means recognizing when you need help. It doesn’t make you weak, it makes you human.
Let’s stomp out the stigma! Counseling isn’t a sign of weakness, it’s a courageous step toward understanding your emotions and finding a path to healing. If you or someone you know is struggling with depression, consider reaching out to a professional counselor.
Here at Miracles Counseling Centers, we believe in offering compassionate and knowledgeable support to help individuals through their mental health journey. We understand the struggles men face with depression, and we are here to walk alongside you, providing a safe, supportive space to explore your emotions, goals, and path to healing.
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